In a world that feeds on insecurity and fear, it’s become normal for people to be meek and hide among the herd. But then there are the people who don’t care about getting along with everyone, and in fact, they know that they don’t need to be liked by everyone or get along with everyone in order to be happy.
And these rare gems who possess a genuine strength in personality are something we can all learn from. They radiate with the self-confidence we’re all bound to have, and they aren’t afraid to show their assets in the most appropriate way.
Here are some traits that make up for a strong personality which most people can’t handle.
1. You don’t let everyone into your life
Being aware of how inconsistent people can be today, you are very careful of who you let into your life. Your core philosophy of friendship is better to stay alone and true than be surrounded by fake people.
That’s why you have a selected number of people you can call friends, and you’re happy with them. When it comes to friendship, quality means everything for you, while quantity is just a waste of time.
2. You don’t crave attention
You’re not the type of person who’ll do everything for a little attention. In fact, you fail to understand why people are so eager to be liked by others that they are ready to go to any lengths to gain their attention. So much that you want to drive people crazy by ignoring their desperate pleas for attention.
However, your personality attracts people in such a way that most who go through all those struggles to get noticed simply envy you. It’s not you, though – it’s the people around you who want someone like you to be present in their lives.
3. You don’t need anybody’s approval
Sometimes people will do things that don’t sync with their personality just for the sake of receiving some approval. Others relentlessly try to reveal as much as they can about their lives to get that approval. Not you, though.
You will do what you want to do and you won’t expect any kind of approval as long as you have yourself. Your strength in making decisions and following through comes from your motivation to achieve the goals you have set, not because others will like that.
4. You are repelled by ignorance, idiocy, and insensitivity
Your strong personality comes as a result of being thoughtful and well-informed. You don’t like to rush into irrational decisions because you always like to measure out the effect your actions will have on you and the world around you.
However, this is not a quality many people can relate to, and you will be the first to notice. You simply can’t stand people who are ignorant in a world full of information and who choose to be insensitive and inconsiderate with their off-side remarks or ignorant comments when they should know better.
It doesn’t win you any “friend of the month awards,” but you are being true to yourself and doing humanity a favor.
5. You hate small talk
Small talk and all the dull and tedious expressions and words that keep on coming back – you simply hate it. Why talk about these irrelevant things when there are so many useful things to discuss? Talking to people for the sake of talking is a waste of your time, and it’s also a waste of other people’s time but they don’t realize it. You’ve walked away from more than one boring conversation, and it makes people pretty uncomfortable to see you take such action.
You simply don’t understand why people focus on staying where they are when the opportunities for growth are at every corner, in every conversation, and in every minute available.
6. You’re a good listener
People keep on yammering about how they want to be heard and understood – but once they come across someone like you, who knows how to listen, the tables turn. You are well aware that the more you understand people, the more terrified they become.
While there are those rare few who will truly appreciate your attention in the way you’re ready to give, most people like to complain about not being heard while begging that they never get to be heard.
7. You don’t put up with excuses
Not only do you never allow yourself to get by with excuses, but you utterly hate it when you see someone trying to place excuses where effort is due. You simply don’t have the time to listen to people whining about how they didn’t manage their time properly and place the blame on external factors.
You know well that if you set your mind on it, there’s no obstacle big enough that can stop you, and you know that this doesn’t make you special in any way. Everybody is capable of achieving this – the question is, did they really want to?
8. You’re fearless
While we all have our fears, and it’s not ‘fearless’ in the literal sense, you know how to manage your emotions and overcome your fears. You know that the odds are just odds, and they can never become bigger than you – and you are ready to march in and face whatever is trying to hold you back.
This makes you fearless – your ability to cope with your fears and use them to your advantage. The sense of fear only increases our awareness and makes us more cautious, and you use these abilities to overcome the obstacle that is trying to prevent you from growing.
9. You like your strong attitude
While you are comfortable with many aspects of yourself, the thing you love the most about yourself is your strong personality. It is the thing that gets you up and out of bed in the morning, and it helps you navigate this tricky life. While others might find it hard to handle, you’ve got it under control, and you know how to use your strong personality to make your life amazing.
Above all else, if you can’t live with yourself because of something you’ve done, then you recognize that you need to change your ways. Sometimes these changes result in complete shifts in your personality or beliefs. But your values and morals are important to you, and you keep tabs on them to ensure you are doing right by you and those around you.
I do love myself a lot for being a badass. Muahahahaha!